The tea tips are obviously rocking the Loveboat this week.
So, how does compassion fall into the Love Equation?
This is just my opinion, but I think that a necessary precursor to us totally embracing ourselves in a luxe, fairy-lit lacuna of self-love, is for us to firstly be able to cut judgement and criticism off at the pass before it flourishes into a Great Big Gutter of Grim Impatience and Cutting Reactivity. That includes impatience and criticism directed at ourselves and others.
And the easiest way to snuff it out? Peer at the person who’s being obtuse/slow/inconsiderate/bullish and gently challenge your first reaction to roll your eyes and mutter a sarcastic comeback under your breath. Choose to look behind the façade: “Maybe they were never taught to consider other people’s feelings” or “Maybe they got bullied as a kid” or “Maybe they have a really controlling partner at home and the only way they feel like they can feel any kind of relevance in daily life is to throw their weight around at work”.
On some level, most of us know that our worst sides come out when someone triggers us to feel negative feelings which actually harp back from another lifetime (ie childhood). We also know that most people have a lovely side which comes out when they’re given the chance to show it.
So the moral of the story is: Errryone’s human yo, so let’s attempt to be R&B hipster KOOL and give people the benefit of the doubt (unless of course, they have glinting teeth and are wielding a heavy weapon—in which case, avert eye contact and leave them alone) 🙂
Happy Friday, poodles! xxx
